By Design

By Design

My affirmations to my children do not include catch phrases that they can be anything they want to be in life. I know this may come as a shock. Some may deem me heartless or cruel. This is the fact in my household. I remember posters all over my classroom walls in school with messages telling us if we believe we can achieve. Sound harmless. Here is the thing. I do not have a gift of singing. As deep as my desire to sing may run. As strong as my belief may hold. I am wasting my time and the time of others to pursue a career as a vocalist. When God was crafting all of humanity that one was not handed off in my direction. I believe within each person is a particular distinct skill set. Much like our unique fingerprints our gifts and talents and make up are individual. Mine are not yours and yours are not mine. Life is well lived with the natural flow of all you are innately as an individual.

From as early as I can remember I gravitated towards certain hobbies. I also distinctly remember being bored or even angered by certain other activities. This was no flaw. The opposite in fact is true. This is the essence of all creation. There are gifts and natural abilities that when aligned with what we put our hands to our souls are set on fire. I do not believe it audacious to pursue these passions. I rather say it is as necessary as breath itself. The flower must bloom. The moon and sun are equally powerful and one does not rob the other. It would be silly for the moon to attempt to do what only the sun is here to do.

We were created with unique gifts, talents and abilities. There is a role that only you can fill. Playing someone else’s role is robbing you of your own. I do not tell my kids they can be anything. I am a student of my children. I watch to see what sets their souls on fire. I watch what sucks their energy. I am guiding them toward what they are naturally inclined to pursue. We are not here to do everything but when we are doing what we are born to do, what we were designed to do the results are much higher.

Failure is A Part of playing The Game.

Failure is A Part of playing The Game.

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